I don't know when it happened. It used to be that when I looked in the mirror all I saw was a doe-eyed, beautiful, unblemished façade staring back at me. Even with scant eyebrows, I most often thought myself to be reasonably attractive. I always enjoyed a full head of hair. Even through the multiple … Continue reading When Pretty is No Longer Necessary
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While We Watch It Burn
We are bold. We are brassy. We are courageous. Yes, we are strong. But we are also vulnerable. We are delicate. And we are vigilant. I did not intend to use this platform to discuss or pontificate about current events or politics. But in January, 2025, nearly every conversation I have with other mature Black … Continue reading While We Watch It Burn
We Were Invincible
It feels like a destination: Next stop, 62! It is most definitely a journey. And every time I think I've contemplated this enough; I think of something else to say. I want to say something that will give young Black women a way to understand what may happen to them when they are my age. … Continue reading We Were Invincible
Who Will Listen When We Are Old
I have come to the conclusion that one of my best qualities is that I am a good listener. The older I get I tend to attract those who talk—a lot. Usually, they are women who are older than myself. They are widows, or divorcees. They have children, but they have set their children free … Continue reading Who Will Listen When We Are Old
Let Me Tell You a Story…
Have you ever wondered how domestic abuse affects a little girl? Almost daily I read posts on social media that wish “happy heavenly birthday” to somebody. Presumably somebody who is cherished, somebody who is missed, and most often it is a parent. I often believe some people do this to prove to others just how … Continue reading Let Me Tell You a Story…
Crush Anxieties
I promised my therapist that I would not look at job boards for at least a week. It's only been a few hours, and already I am feeling anxious. I know, I know... Only three months ago I declared my freedom from never having to work a job, ever again. But, I have yet to … Continue reading Crush Anxieties
On the Quest for a Doctor Who Gives a Damn
We've read the history. We've heard the stories...stories about Black women (and Black men) whose bodies have been used for experimentation. We know that they think Black women don't feel pain. We are not their delicate, examples of femininity. We ask for medication because we are addicted. This, along with the general mistrust of the … Continue reading On the Quest for a Doctor Who Gives a Damn
Who Taught Us How to Retire?
When we think about images of retirement in American society it looks a lot like the images that we are given about the American dream. Usually there are white people in the image where one is given a loving sendoff by co-workers on a job where one worked for many years. One is given a … Continue reading Who Taught Us How to Retire?
The Cusp of a Life Reclaimed
Remember when Congresswoman Maxine Waters said, “Reclaiming my time, reclaiming my time!” January 26, 2024 will be my last day on a job. It feels a little like the eve of a significant holiday, or a graduation. All week long, I have felt this momentum, and I have been trying to take long, deep breaths. … Continue reading The Cusp of a Life Reclaimed
SPITTING OUT BONES 